Keep The Conversation Going
January 6, 2010 by Matt Fuller · Leave a Comment
Online dating presents us with the golden opportunity to chat to others before meeting in real life which is an ideal way to meet as opposed to physically meeting as complete strangers and allows us to gauge compatibility based on more than just chemistry.
Online dating sites can make us think we’re safe in assuming that once we go on the first ‘real’ date, conversation will flow – but not always.
Acting shy on a first date is one of the hurdles we need to overcome to have first date success. Chatting online gives us a huge advantage for you to be able to prepare your offline conversation by taking notes based on your online chats.
Conventionally, many first dates take place at a coffee shop, but next time you arrange a date, think outside the square a little. Try a more casual and engaging environment like ten pin bowling or putt putt golf. Go for a bush walk perhaps and stop for lunch in the National Park, try something more interesting than the standard first date coffee shop.
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If you are the kind of person who is a little shy, be sure to select an environment where you can easily talk about the surroundings and atmosphere.
The art of conversing is a two-way street. If you see your date has stalled in the chatting game, then it’s time to take over the driving. Ask them questions about themselves and be interested in the answers. Use what you already know about them from when you first met in the singles chat room.
We suggest to always be yourself on a first date. The more relaxed you are the more approachable you become. And simply because you run out of things to chat about, doesn’t mean the date is a dud. Let things move on a bit, take the lead and suggest going for a walk, or maybe a drive; just change the scenery somehow to re-energize the conversation with a new environment.
It’s always wise to restrain yourself from being too opinionated about touchy subjects such as religion or race issues. Show your date your easy going and open minded self before you blast them with your pent up views about what’s wrong with the world.
Be sure not to hog the conversation. A good way to further help achieve this is to make it easy on your date to participate in the conversation by asking more questions about the topic you are already engaged in. Avoid straight out yes – no answers at all cost. Remember if your date goes to yes or no ask them why. Why do you think that, or why did you say that, I’m curious.
Bonny Albo, a writer who has focused on online dating matters, sums up the art of conversation with these words: “Concentrate on adopting your own experiences and interweaving them in with the other individuals answers. By doing so you will be formulating a connection with the individual, producing hooks of information with which to initiate a conversation at a future moment.
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A Match Made In Heaven?
January 3, 2010 by Shaniyah Benson · Leave a Comment
With the excitement and promise of new love, it’s easy to overlook major personal differences in a relationship. Yet you’ve got to wonder, could the differences you find endearing now become too much to bear years from now? Before going too far into the tunnel of love, stop and ask yourself seven vital compatibility questions.
1. Are you really attracted to your partner? Sometimes it’s just not enough to think highly of a person. To maintain a long term relationship, the role of physical attraction is important and you should be able to determine if it exists or not at a pretty early stage.
2. Are you able to communicate effectively? In some cases the physical attraction is there and you are pushing forward with a relationship without stopping to ask yourself if this is really the type of person you can talk to and understand on a subtle level. While differences in style should not make you worry, you should look closely at the type of communication you have to make sure it is open and honest. If you don’t feel it, it could present problems in the future.
3. How do you function together in public settings? Some people have very different needs when it comes to their social life and activities. Make sure to check that you are on the same page. Otherwise, you might find yourself in a situation where one of you is just not fulfilled socially and will look to strike out on their own. This can lead in some cases to growing apart and separating.
4. Do you share similar values, politics and religious beliefs? You don’t have to be identical in what you believe in but f it is important to you it is useful to check it out early. There are certain things that for certain people would just not work. The most important thing in this case is to be honest and to talk about what you find important and what your main principles are.
5: Did Your Partner Cheat on You? Maybe your ex cheated on you and it still hurts like hell. Was it a one-time slip on their part? Did it happen during a bad time in your relationship? Have they promised it’ll never happen again? Are they sincerely sorry?
6. Are your lifestyles compatible? You and your partner might have very different ideas in regards to the type of lifestyle you are after. This can lead to problems down the road. The best thing is to talk about it, understand how much each of you is willing to spend on an apartment for instance or other major expenses.
7: Do Your Share Dreams, Goals? If you’re of child-bearing age, would you like to have children? What about him/her? Do you dream of pulling up stakes and traveling freely, while he/she wants to build a home and nest there? Differences don’t mean anyone is wrong. It just means you want different things.
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First Date Tips for Men: Guarantee You a Second One
December 20, 2009 by Janine Hanson · Leave a Comment
First date guidelines are possibly the most vital ones you will ever get. Besides, if the first date is not enjoyable and impressive, you are very unlikely to get a second chance. Doing great on your very first date can make all the difference between moving on to a long term relationship or making a woman not return your calls.
These are the things you should keep in mind to have a successful first date:
Pointer #1: Location to a good first date…
Same with real estate business, good location is very crucial for the very first date. . Just stop the idea of having a “watching a movie in a theater” date! You really won’t get a chance to know her and impress her if you do this. Sitting next to her for almost 2 hours in silence and just staring at the screen won’t help you at all.
Choose a place where you can really talk and make a good conversation. Do not go to a club where the music is so freaking loud that you need to shout for her to hear you won’t help. Dining in a restaurant or bistro after a pleasant walk is a great idea for your first date. The movement allows you both to calm down and then you have chance to have a comfortable conversation. .
Step No.2: Pick a time that is not stressful
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On your very first date with a woman you are really interested in, a daytime date is less stressful. Lunch or having coffee is more comfortable than a dinner, and it really gives you other options. If it really goes well, you can extend your day. But if things are not going well, you can free yourself after an hour or two and your evening is still free.
Tip No.3: Make a Backup Plan
The first dating mistake men usually make is not having a backup plan if the date is not working out well. They always think that they do not really need it. But you should always be prepared and make a good back-up plan; if what you are doing is not feeliung comfortable suggest something else, change the venue, go for a walk, go window shopping, something that is fun and not stressful. Having a back-up plan is a plus factor on your first date, to really give the date a chance.
Tip No.4: Say what you really think
During your conversation on your very first date, it is not advisable to get into really controversial issues. She might get upset if you ask her these things. And while you are planning for your first date, you should let her know what type of clothing will be suitable for your date. Let her know what about your plans, where the place is and what you will be wearing. She should wear something comfortable and not be overly dressed.
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